Begin again

Crater Lake, Oregon
Crater Lake, Oregon

Another year comes to a close, offering us an opportunity for reflection. Perhaps more than most in recent memory, we’ll be glad to bid this year farewell. Its challenges were felt across the globe, and while cheers of “We’re all in this together” drew us closer with a sense of community and connection, we also witnessed deep division, mistrust, and isolation that threatened to pull us farther apart. Whatever this year held for each of us, may we find it in our hearts to look back with gratitude for its blessings, and to acknowledge the lessons we learned from its challenges.

Many of us might be looking eagerly to the new year as a time to start over, a clean slate – and given the way 2020 has unfolded, who could blame us. However, one of the most important lessons we learn in mindfulness practice is that we can always begin again – anytime, anywhere, right-here-now. We don’t need a new year, a new month, a new season; every day is new, every hour is new, every moment is a new opportunity to release what’s no longer serving us and begin again with an open heart and a fresh perspective.

Thich Nhat Hanh wrote: “Waking up this morning, I smile. Twenty-four brand new hours are before me. I vow to live fully each moment, and to look at all beings with eyes of compassion.” When we’re experiencing challenges – whether they’re physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual – it can sometimes feel as though there’s no relief in sight, no light at the end of the tunnel. But what if relief is waiting on the next breath? In the next moment? What if relief is found by waking up each morning and choosing to live fully each moment with kindness and compassion, beginning with ourselves?

Winter is a season of darkness, cold, stillness, and quietude. If we release our tendency toward constant busyness and activity, we can embrace the introspective energy of winter and nourish ourselves the way Mother Nature intended. We can welcome stillness, spend time in quiet reflection, withdraw from the cacophony around us to listen deeply within. With loving awareness, we can acknowledge our fears and anxiety, welcoming them as warmly as we do our joy. As we listen with kind attention to our inner wisdom, to our deepest self, our fears loosen their grip and we make our way to a state of ease and grace. Each day a challenge might present itself, and each day we can choose to respond to it with that same loving awareness and compassion, creating our own light at the end of the tunnel as we begin again. It’s a continual process: renewing our compassion for ourselves and others, forgiving ourselves and others when we or they falter, and then starting anew…again, and again, and again.

As we say goodbye to the year that was and welcome the year that will be, I wish you joy and good health, with deepest gratitude for your support. I leave you with the poetic wisdom of John O’Donohue.

For a New Beginning – by John O’Donohue

In out of the way places of the heart
Where your thoughts never think to wander
This beginning has been quietly forming
Waiting until you were ready to emerge.

For a long time it has watched your desire
Feeling the emptiness grow inside you
Noticing how you willed yourself on
Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.

It watched you play with the seduction of safety
And the grey promises that sameness whispered
Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent
Wondered would you always live like this.

Then the delight, when your courage kindled,
And out you stepped onto new ground,
Your eyes young again with energy and dream
A path of plenitude opening before you.

Though your destination is not clear
You can trust the promise of this opening;
Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning
That is one with your life’s desire.

Awaken your spirit to adventure
Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.

Amongst the trees

Communing with the trees
Go Among Trees and Sit Still - Wendell Berry

I go among trees and sit still
All my stirring becomes quiet
Around me like circles on water.
My tasks lie in their places
Where I left them, asleep like cattle.

Then what I am afraid of comes.
I live for a while in its sight.
When I fear in it leaves it,
And the fear of it leaves me.
It sings, and I hear its song.

I’ve just returned from a week-long road trip – camping among the trees, beneath starry skies, beside crystal-clear rivers and lakes. Spending time in nature is healing on every level for me, even more so when I’m exploring somewhere new. As I let go of my daily routines and commitments, I feel lighter, freer, more connected to my deeper self and to the present moment. My busy mind becomes quieter and more spacious. Days seem to move at a leisurely pace and I welcome what each moment brings. I release the need to always be doing and allow myself to simply be. When I can relax into being, when I can bask in stillness, I’m able to experience the world around me and the world within me with curiosity and open awareness.

In our busy lives today, we are always moving, mentally and/or physically. A common belief seems to be that if we’re not moving, we’re not productive; if we’re not achieving or succeeding or earning or accumulating anything, it’s wasted time. Yet with all that ‘movement’, with all our focus on meeting external demands and expectations, we neglect to maintain the very framework that supports our movement – our mind and body. Without health and well-being in our mind and body, this constant movement will eventually come screeching to a halt whether we want it to or not.

If you follow me on Instagram, you might have noticed a few posts recently about September being self-care month (sidebar: you can also access my Instagram posts here on my website on the Photos page). Self-care has always been a topic that’s close to my heart as a yoga and meditation teacher: I believe that through our practices we cultivate strength, resilience, compassion, and equanimity within us, and we can then share those qualities with our loved ones, our colleagues, our community. As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup; if we are running on empty, we have nothing to support ourselves and nothing to give to others. Self-care isn’t a selfish act; it’s a vital component of healthy living.

Self-care can take myriad forms but, for me, a good place to start is in stillness. When we spend time in stillness we allow our mind and body to rest. When we spend time in stillness our awareness opens, our senses come alive, and we can engage with the world around and within us in a way that releases expectation and judgment, in a way that lets us be curious about ourselves and our moment-to-moment experience. When we make time for stillness, we’re able to reflect within and determine what it is we truly need to nourish our mind and body.

We can invite stillness into our everyday life in many ways, and one of my favourites is to find stillness in nature – sitting lakeside listening to the loons calling, on a beach serenaded by ocean waves, in a forest surrounded by towering trees, their canopies swaying in the breeze. A growing body of research shows that spending time in nature has significant benefits for our mental and physical health. In Japan, the practice of shinrin-yoku or forest bathing became popular in the 1980s as a way to unplug from the busyness of daily life and find healing in nature through mindful forest walking. Researchers have even found that evergreen trees release a high concentration of phytoncides, airborne essential oils that provide a natural immunity boost. As is so often the case with mindful practices, Western science is now proving what we practitioners have known for some time: that spending time in nature just feels good on every level, and that sense of healing and nourishment we experience has long-lasting benefits for our mental, physical and emotional well-being.

In honour of Self-Care September, what new habits can you invite into your daily routine that will nourish and restore you? In what ways can you fill your own cup – with self-love, compassion, acceptance, equanimity – replenishing your inner reserves so that you can care for yourself and for those around you? Make time for stillness. Make time for reflection on what your mind and body need to remain strong and resilient. Make time to spend in nature, whether far from the city streets or in your neighbourhood park. As Wendell Berry wisely advises, let’s go among trees and sit still.

The art of stillness

Today has been a quiet one, as I am working my way through a bout of bronchitis and am feeling particularly tired and achy. Whenever illness strikes and I take a quiet day like this, I inevitably feel guilty or anxious at some point. I feel as though I should be ‘doing something’, being productive, contributing to the world around me. When these thoughts and feelings arise, I try to remind myself that by taking this time to rest, to heal, to nourish my body so that I may become healthy again, I am practicing Metta, lovingkindness, and this is in itself a contribution to the world. If we do not care for ourselves, we will not have the strength to engage with the world in a mindful and compassionate way. When we take the time to stop, to listen to the needs of our own mind and body, and to respond with lovingkindness and compassion, we strengthen our inner resources and we build the capacity to respond in a similarly kind and loving way to the needs of those around us.

Illness and injury can force us to stop and take stock, but we need not wait to become sick or hurt to reflect within. Our mindfulness practices give us that opportunity every day, and it is particularly powerful when we allow ourselves to find stillness. Stillness has the power to heal, to nourish, to calm, to enlighten. It invites us to look with new eyes upon ourselves and the world, to open ourselves to new ideas and possibilities. Pico Iyer said it beautifully: “In an age of speed, I began to think nothing could be more invigorating than going slow. In an age of distraction, nothing can feel more luxurious than paying attention. And in an age of constant movement, nothing is more urgent than sitting still.”  

For more of Pico Iyer’s insight on the art of stillness, I invite you to enjoy his TED Talk.

Pico Iyer TED Talk, The art of stillness